Easier said than done.

How many times have we’ve heard that phrase in our life? Plenty of times.
I understand your friends try to be helpful and sincere in giving advice, but do they REALLY understand your big picture of Life? Do they understand  what you are going through ? Are you aware on how much they pay attention to you, your writings, your conversations, text messages, etc. Do they listen? Do you listen and pay attention to your friend as they are trying to communicate with you?
Are you taking them for granted? Are they taking you for granted?

Communication IS a two way street. Not a three-way text, not a group meeting.
You and I have  friends. We all  need to communicate. Set limits, boundaries, learn to share, be confidential, learn to listen and be honest. Time management comes to mind these days as we live in the Fast food world of communication. We can now communicate by so many wireless gadgets at anytime anywhere that setting limits are a must…that is if we want to sleep or concentrate on an activity. This instant communication can be a nuisances if those limits are not set. We blame the friend instead of ourselves for interrupting our life….REALLY?
Or we just didn’t set a limit by saying “ Sorry, busy at the moment. Will get back to you as soon as I can.”

I find texting  very useful in a quick contact drop a subject sort of thing. Email can be a way to express a note FYI or can be a way of expression much the way paper and pen use to be…but still can be impersonal because you don ’t feel the emotion of the person writing the email as in a letter.. is it  their handwriting that gives the emotional expression that at times we can’t find in an email? The art in gathering the right words to place on paper have been replaced by instant gratification of emotionless words just to answer quickly the next line. Again, impersonal.

But  is it too late to change the way we communicate even though technology is above the old letter writing days? Some how I miss those letter writing days. That personal touch, seeing someone’s script on a card or a letter still sends an emotional current up my spine as if I am connected one with the sender. You know how that feels, do you? Perhaps you may have forgotten.

    Long ago there was an art of letter writing. We had a writing desk, personal stationary, note cards for every occasion, a fine writing tool, and a personal wax seal. We wrote how we felt, the goings on within our family, friends, how we have missed you and wishing you were here. These letters were kept in boxes, tied with ribbon, some in a coat breast pocket close to the heart.

These letters meant something then. So what do we have for keepsakes, emails? A few text messages? They don’t give off the same passion as something more personal as seeing your emotions on script. Then again, we may have really forgotten to express how we humanly feel between each other - the fast and the furious of technology has made us mechanical and impersonal. Too busy to acknowledge a hurt send out a loving sentiment receive a compliment or voice a rational thought.

Tell me, when was the last time you really had a lovely exchange with someone without them cutting you off saying “they’re too busy”. When was the last time someone said to you, “thank you, for thinking of me and I too, have missed you.” Easier said than done.Right?
I love you, Katherine